“Stop Chasing Happiness — The Myths That Keep Us Unhappy”
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Title: The Myths of Happiness
Author: Sonja Lyubomirsky
Category: Psychology & Human Behavior, Mindfulness & Wellbeing
What if getting married, having kids, making more money, and staying young won't make you as happy as you think? Sam and Sophie dive into Sonja Lyubomirsky's research on the myths that keep us chasing the wrong things.
They walk through Lyubomirsky's key findings on affective forecasting, hedonic adaptation, and the psychological immune system. The episode tackles specific myths around marriage, parenthood, money, and aging, revealing why the honeymoon effect fades, why marital satisfaction drops after kids, and why older adults are often happier. They also explore the arrival fallacy and concrete strategies like variety, appreciation, and social connection.
If you've ever felt like happiness is always just out of reach, this episode names the hidden assumptions that keep you on the hedonic treadmill. The takeaway: happiness isn't a destination but something you build moment by moment through intentional activity and gratitude.
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00:00Why We Mispredict Happiness01:27Myths of Marriage and Parenthood02:38Money, Aging, and the Arrival Fallacy04:29Strategies to Combat Hedonic Adaptation05:41Intentional Activity and Final Takeaway
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